There is a way in which, once you are in the health care system - say, you've been admitted to the hospital or you're in an Assisted Living facility - no matter how good the hospital or the facility, it's like you're in the criminal justice system - your life is no longer your own.  Your choices are no longer your own.  The rules, for the most part, have been created by people who genuinely are trying to protect infirm or elderly people, I do believe, but the effect of the rules is to render the individual in the center ineffectual in his or her own life.  It is infantalizing in the name of protection and healing.